The usage of social media has seemingly increased since the pandemic started. It’s the first thing we check when we wake up sometimes. Or the last thing we see before bed.
If not careful, one can easily become deceived that other’s lives are perfect, leading to self shame and insecurity. It is important to remember that the majority of social media users post more photos of their good days than they do their bad. Seeing picture perfect photos does not mean the person being viewed does not have obstacles.
Self comparison through social media is dangerous because social media does not tell a full story- only the part the writer feels comfortable showing that day.
For non or limited social media users, triggers of insecurity could show in work or social settings. It is important to remember that your best friend, golden child of a sibling, or employee of the year co-worker has just as many flaws as you- if not, more! When thoughts of comparison and insecurity arise, it is important to redirect the thought as quickly as possible.
Feeling inadequate or insecure in a social, work, or performance setting? This can lead to anxiety, self-doubt, and even self-sabotage. The 5-4-3-2- “I’m the (1) challenge shifts your thinking from “Why am I not enough?” to “This is why I’m the 1!”
When negative/ anxious feelings of self arise, instantly stop the thought without reconsideration and replace it with as many of the following as possible:
5 things you’ve done correctly in your life or today (even if small).
4 things you like about yourself.
3 talents or skills you have
2 Things you’ve done to help make other’s lives easier
1 reason why you are unique